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Ready to start dating again? 15 tips for getting back in the game after divorce
Guest Contributor. Getting burned out after a failed marriage is not that uncommon. In the United States, researchers estimate that 40—50 percent of all first marriages, and 60 percent of second marriages, will end in divorce. Whatever the case, some people find it hard to move on and break free from the feeling of uncertainty and self-doubt. They might even be scared of attracting or being attracted to the wrong person again. Some people jump back into the dating pool too quickly. They might not be ready. Others risk further isolation, alienating themselves from the concept of true love. Online dating forums have become increasingly popular. That said, restricting conversations to messages alone does not reveal everything about a person.
Dating after divorce can be a minefield for the midlife woman. Perhaps even thornier than pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays — not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups — is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. Why is it so hard?
There's a phrase that best describes the feeling many people have when they begin dating after divorce : Scary as hell. Putting yourself out there after marriage or a long-term relationship has ended , can make you feel uncomfortably vulnerable. This is especially true now that the number one way in which couples connect is by looking at thumbnail-size photos of each other, reading a two-sentence description of the person and swiping right or left. You are trying to learn more about your date to see if he or she is a good fit for you. Many people get nervous on dates, and as a result talk, talk, talk about themselves. If you talk negatively about your ex, or call him or her a four-letter word, you will most likely never hear from your date again.
12 Expert Tips for Dating After a Divorce
After the stress of going through a divorce , it can be difficult to think about dating again. Everyone has their own timeline for when they might want to get out there. Even if you know your marriage is really, truly over, you still need to give yourself some time and space. Although it might be tempting to lick your wounds with positive attention from another, this distraction can actually inhibit you from the healing work that is necessary to move forward in a healthy way with someone in the future.